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Get Your Preschoolers Talking!

From the moment our children are born, they are soaking in the atmosphere, picking up on things and learning all the time. When they reach preschool age, communication skills are vital, and they enter with all they have learned so far from parents. To maximize these skills, it is important to engage in daily, meaningful conversations. This may sound easy enough but to find something to talk about that can get your preschooler talking and thinking can be easier said than done. We have a list of conversation starters to help create engaging talk with your little ones and help them develop vital communication skills.

Question about themselves

When you ask a child a question about themselves, they have to think about their own actions, likes, dislikes, habits, behavior, etc. It helps with self-discovery and reflection. They may look back at something and decide it’s something didn’t like it or be proud of what they did and also encourages empathy. For example, if you ask them what cartoon character they would be, they may choose the good guy because he saves the day and they wouldn’t want to be the bad guy because he/she causes trouble makes people sad. Other questions can just be about their favorite things, but always try to get them to explain why and elaborate what they particularly like. Kids may not quite understand what you are asking, so a little prompt may be needed to help kickstart their thinking. Some questions you could ask are:

How do you describe yourself? (or what words describe you?)

What was the best thing about your day? Which was the worst?

If you were a teacher, what rules would you have or your class?

What superpower would you have?

What do you want to do when you grow up?

What is one house rule you don’t like?

If you had one wish, what would it be?

What are some things you find scary?

Do you like your name? What would you have named yourself?

What would you teach others how to do?

What are you good at?

What is something you always wondered about?

Don’t forget to ask “why?” Some answers may be silly, and that’s ok! Just enjoy the laughs that usually come along!

Most questions are about what the child thinks about a certain topic and promotes self-discovery. Here are a few more.

Food topics

Questions about food are great, especially if you have a picky eater! It gets us thinking about different foods and may even stir interest into trying them too.

If you only could eat one food forever, which would it be?

What is the perfect sandwich?

If you could plan the family meal, what would you pick?

What is your favorite dessert?

If you only had to eat one vegetable, which would you choose?

What is your favorite restaurant, and what do you like to eat there?

Which breakfast food is the best?

How do you make ____________? (This one usually brings a lot of giggles!)


Thinking about others

Including others in conversations strengthens relationships and contributes to empathy. Here are a few ideas of how to get talking positively about others:

What is the best thing ____________ does for you?

What is your favorite thing to do with Mom/Dad/sibling/Grandma/Grandpa/etc.?

Share a story about ____________.

What do you like best about ____________?

If you had to change places with Mom or Dad, who would you pick and why?

Who is the funniest person you know? What do they do that makes you laugh?


Let imaginations run free!

Finally, here are some more questions that take on a creative, imaginative feel. These encourage kids to get thinking outside the box, drawing on what they know and then coming up with their own story.

Which one of your favorite cartoon characters would you be?

Which cartoon would you like to live in?

If your pet could talk, what do you think they would say?

What would you do if you had the ability to fly? Where would you go?

If you got to turn into any animal, which would you pick? What would you do?


Keep the conversation going!

As previously mentioned, you want to keep the conversation going with probing questions, especially “why?” but here are some other ways to keep the conversation flowing with a preschooler:

How do/did you feel about that?

Wow! Tell me more about what happened!

How do you think ___________ felt when that happened?

Cool! What happened next?

What would you do next?


We hope these tips can help encourage great communication skills in your home! Have any other engaging questions you use to get your kids talking? Share it with us!


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