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Parents and Guardians, Look After Yourselves

At PetiteBeautyKids, we’re always happy to share the best ways to bond with your kids, how to make the most of all the moments, and how to best overcome similar problems parents may be facing. However, we mustn’t forget the other person who needs to be taken care of – YOU! Parents and guardians often get into a routine of looking after the children that they never get the chance to look after themselves. If you don’t look after yourself, how can you expect to effectively look after anyone else?

Why is it important?

Only looking after others and not yourself will have a very negative effect. It can lead you to feel both physically and mentally tired. This can lead to not being very productive in work life if you’re a working parent, or neglect for other tasks. It can also put strains on relationships with your partner, family, and friends.

Here are some tips on how to look after yourself when you’re a busy parent or guardian of young children:

Have play dates that include parents

Have days where there is a safe area for the kids to play while parents gather for a good natter. This can be the play area at the gym while you and a few others attend a spin class or a walk in the park or cycle day. Just because you have the kids, doesn’t mean you can’t be sociable.

Have regular date nights

Take a break from being Mom and Dad and be Mr. and Mrs. Get a trusted babysitter so you don’t worry about the kids. Somewhere they can stay overnight is even better, giving you even longer time to reconnect and be a couple. Sometimes during busy weeks, couples really only talk to each other in passing between taking care of the kids and work and preparing dinner, so these times to spend together is very important.

Exercise

A bit of exercise will make all the difference to your physical and mental wellbeing. It can be anything from a quick jog or yoga/pilates – anything to get that heart rate elevated. 30 minutes a day is ideal, but anything you can fit in is better than nothing. If you can’t seem to fit it in during the day, consider getting up earlier to have a bit of peace while getting that exercise in. It’s the perfect way to start the day.

Know it’s okay to say no

We’re parents of the 21st century, and therefore we think we could, and should, do it all. That simply isn’t right at all. You will only get burnt out and feel overwhelmed. So, next time someone asks you to do something that is just something else to add to your to-do list, say no. It’s okay to say no. It’s okay that the dishes sit in the sink overnight. It’s okay that the laundry isn’t completely done. Your personal needs come before any of that.

Sleep!

Be sure to get your sleep in, but don’t feel the need to sleep when the kids do. Stay up a bit to chat with your partner about the day, read a book, watch your favorite TV show. However, when you feel sleepy, you should go to bed. Like mentioned above, the dishes can wait. Don’t be afraid to go to bed and get a good night’s sleep.

Keep connected with friends

We all need our friends, and time spent with them can be precious if everyone is living their own busy lives. Don’t be afraid to pick up the phone and call (yes call – not text!) your friends for a quick chat and maybe arrange to have a coffee or lunch together. Have a much-needed girls’/guys’ night out, because while your partner is great, you still need to be amongst your closest friends to have a much needed and well-deserved good time.

It is not a selfish thing to take time to look after yourself – it is a necessity! Remember there is no such thing as the perfect parent, so there is no use striving to be something other than yourself. You are loved for being you, and your family and friends want you to look after yourself! Being a parent is incredibly rewarding, but don’t forget there are other great things about you too that makeup who you are.

What are you doing to make sure you are well? Please share with us the activities you like to partake in to get a break. You can also join in on the conversation over on our Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram pages

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